Along Came Polly

曾經在某個地方看到一句話
(Once, I saw this phrase)

看一個人愛不愛你不是看他平常對你有多好,而是吵架的時候怎麼對你
(You cannot tell if a person really loves you from how he treats you normally, it’s from how he treats you during quarrels)

當我看到這句話我便時時刻刻記著它。
(this phrase is engraved in my mind)

嗯….兩個人在交往的時候,對待彼此的方式跟個性有很大的關聯。
(when a couple is dating, their character have a big influence on their attitude towards each other)

或許你的男朋友在平常並不十分細心體貼或是說些讓你開心的話。
(maybe, your man is not sensitive enough, or seldom make your smile with his words)

或許你的男朋友很溫柔很體貼或是把你捧在手心疼
(or maybe, your man is very gentle and understand and pampers you)

我覺得那都無所謂。
(I feel that it all doesnt matter)

因為在戀愛的時候,沒吵架的時候,大家都心情好,自然不會對對方太差
(Because when you are in love, and not in quarrels, both of you are in a good mood, and naturally won’t ill-treat each other)

但是吵架的時候就差很多了
(But the difference is apparent when you quarrelled)

每個人都在氣頭上,都有股怒氣想爆發….都是一樣不滿
(Everybody needs to vent their frustrations when they are angry)

可是,真正愛妳的人是不會因為生氣而去傷害妳的
(But one whom truly loves you, will never hurt you in fit of anger)

不管是動手打人或是口出惡言…都不是一個真正愛妳的人會做的
(One whom truly loves you, will never abuse you, both physically or verbally)

正在吵架或是生氣都不是一個可以傷害對方的藉口
(Anger is not an excuse to hurt)

如果夠愛妳,就捨不得妳讓你受傷害…..不是嗎?
(If you really loves one, you won’t want her to be hurt, isn’t it?)

我曾經交過一個男朋友,歷時2年,外在條件很好,平常對我更是呵護
(I used to have a very good-looking bf of 2 years.. and he treats me very well)

專情的不得了,跟他的外表完全不符合…..我那時候覺得他是真的很愛我
(and he is very faithful. At that time, I feel that he truly loves me)

從來沒有人那麼體貼那麼溫柔,我以為自己真的遇到一個真心愛我的人
(no one had ever been so gentle and caring, I thought that I had met The One)

可是,只要一吵架,他就變了
(but once we quarrelled, he changed)

他只要一吵架,拼命掛我電話…罵我髒話…說我是賤貨或是三字經
(he will hang up on my calls, and use vulgarities in our conversations)

當他第一次這樣罵我的時候,我整個人呆掉……覺得這是幻覺…..
(I was stunned when I saw this side of him for the first time)

後來和好的時候他覺得自己很不應該,一直道歉,我就心軟了…
(he apologised for his actions after both of us cooled down, and I decided to give it another try)

但是,後來吵架,他還是故態復萌….同樣的重複….。
(But alas, history repeats itself)

我終於看清楚,這個人,並不是真正的愛我。
(I finally realised that he don’t love me truly)

不管他平常對我有多好,但是在生氣的時候任意的傷害我就足以證明
(No matter how good he treats me, the fact that he hurts me when he is angry is enough to prove that…)

他的人品有多麼低劣,多麼沒水準,多麼自私。
(he is nothing more than a selfish and worthless man)

我對他,或許平常的時候淡淡的…但是我知道我自己對他非常的在意
(I may not be as passionate as him, but I know that he means alot to me)

所以就算在爭執,我也沒辦法罵下去,我不忍,也覺得不該
(which is why, during quarrels, I can’t bear to scold him)

我不該傷害一個我愛的人….
I should not hurt someone whom I love…)

吵架該是一種溝通,不該以傷害為目的。
(Quarrels are a form of communication, and we should not end up hurting each other)

如果,現在你的身旁有一個人,是即使吵架也不會傷害妳的,願意讓著你的。
(if there is someone by your side now, whom never hurts you even in quarrels, whom is willing to give in to you)

請好好珍惜
(Please treasure him / her)